So.. the fiancee and I have now started planning our wedding.
We have a few things narrowed down but it’s kind of tricky because we are planning a wedding 6000 miles away from where we live. There’s just so many things to take care of.
I can’t decide what kind of a wedding saree I want to wear. There is a designer I really, really like. But I never wear sarees because Oslo is just not very saree-friendly due to the weather. So, I’m not sure if I want to splurge on this designer saree. That said, it is a wedding and if you don’t splurge on your wedding, then when else, right?
So, we are traveling next month to hunt for my ‘dream’ saree.
I’m actually kind of nervous about it because I’ve never bought my own saree before. Usually my Mom is there to help me choose and give useful feedback on the quality, texture, design, etc. This whole getting married thing has made me realize that I will have do a lot of life changing things on my own. I mean, I do live alone, far, far away from home, but I still consult my parents on many things. Jobs (I never sign a contract without running it by my Dad), savings, plans, buying gadgets – I usually ask one of my parents about these things. They always give pretty sound advice too.
It’s just sometimes, you really want to make your own decisions – and then life gives you that chance – but then you realize how difficult it is to make life changing decisions.
I’m giving up my apartment. I’ve lived there for about 5 years and it’s a bit difficult to give it up. So many happy and sad things have taken place in that apartment. I remember first moving in and thinking: “This place is huge! There is no way I will ever be able to fill up these bookshelves!” Well, guess what? The bookshelves are overflowing. I guess we grow into our surroundings – either that or I’m just a hoarder trying to adapt to Scandinavian minimalistic furnishings 🙂
The fiancee and I are going to do our civil marriage here in Norway, then move in and save up for our actual wedding. It’s a bit unconventional and not exactly what I had imagined. But living in two separate apartments in the 4th most expensive city in the world is not the secret to financial freedom. Apartments require so much time and maintenance. We are both working full time and planning a wedding. Though, I have to say, my family has been so helpful and understanding – especially my Mom. I actually call her a few times a week, at 6 something in the morning (my time). In the beginning I dreaded the wedding planning, but if it means I get to have some nice conversations with my Mom, then it definitely has it’s upsides.
I’m not a wedding person – you know? I’m not soppy or romantic. I’m sitting here trying to string together some words to draft our wedding invitation cards and I’m stumped! You’d think a technical writer will be able to draft a wedding invitation. Well, maybe not. I also don’t know if we want a wedding website (feels a bit cheesy) but it would be nice to use an online RSVP tool, which some of the wedding website hosting companies provide.
Oh well, I’m chuggin’ along. Trying to figure things out. 2013 has been one eventful year so far.